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Excuses, Excuses…

RHOD Season 4 Episode 3

Why do I write this blog?

This blog is not intended to be about anyone’s specific behavior, but a way to use scenes and conversations to parallel real life for us to learn to reflect on our own experiences and behavior so growth can occur. This works just like using a movie clip to provide an example for us or a quote from an author that aligns with how we are thinking or feeling in our own life.

I care deeply for the women on the Real Housewives of Dallas. They are strong, purposeful, and inspirational people. My blog is not about their real lives or intended as messages to them on how to change in any way their personal pursuit of goals and dreams.

Please know my words and insights are only drawn from scenes in a current reality show. It is not in any way intended to be focused on individuals or life occurrences. Let’s continue to bring the flow of positivity, compassion, and empathy for ourselves and others.

Do you make excuses in your daily life to avoid conflict and confrontation or to create a purpose for your negative behavior? Excuses are a part of life, and they prevent us from stepping forward. This week on the Real Housewives of Dallas, we are Mexico-bound… From the lesser level of hair emergencies to the higher end of family dysfunction and abuse, the housewives are headed into the deep end of drama this week.

Excuses were a common thread running through much of the conversations in this episode. When is an excuse for our behavior acceptable and when is it not? Can it be a statement providing the missing link of information for what has happened in the past or present?

Yes, the excuses were many in this episode. Which ones do you use? Are you guilty, too? We all periodically justify our own actions in life. Let’s just choose a few.

Excuse #1: Hair Emergencies

We begin with a supportive meeting scheduled to assist D’Andra in her challenges in business. Travis purposefully researched the beauty industry and where current trends were heading beforehand to provide D’Andra with some valuable insights (and he pulled in his savvy business sense, too). As Travis states the truth in the matter for all of us, “You have to show up in business (and in life) if you are going to make something happen!” As she shares what happened with her husband, Jeremy, she is embarrassed about missing her meeting. He lets her know a “hair emergency” wasn’t the real reason behind her absence. D’Andra shares in an open and meaningful way that no, she was nervous and anxious. She calls Travis and apologizes for her behavior. There is a shift in her mindset. Way to go, D’Andra!